Jun 26, 2019
Abigail Manning is an awareness creator on authentic health.
She shares her personal story of freeing herself from abuse, and
how we may recognize someone that may be suffering from abuse. She
also discusses the important distinction between reacting and
responding, why it’s crucial to have boundaries, and the components
of trust that help people thrive.
Key Takeaways
[4:05] Abigail broke free from a
cycle of abuse. She endured childhood abuse and domestic violence
in her adult life. Her characteristics of optimism, creative
thinking, and problem solving helped her rise above and see her
self worth.
[5:30] Abigail is very mission
driven and wanted to share her story so others wouldn’t have to
spend as many years as she did suffering and trying to figure out
how to end abuse.
[7:18] Great leaders feed
themselves with content from inspirational people and surround
themselves with others who spread positivity. It is important that
we all lend a helping hand to each other, and really listen to hear
how people are doing.
[10:40] Abuse can look like
anything, and take place with people and in locations you may never
expect. It can be subtle to severe and can be emotional, sexual,
physical, and even financial in nature. Repeated mistreatment is
the number one way of recognizing abuse.
[13:22]When recognizing signs of
abuse, red flags include manipulation, shame, blame and
isolation.
[17:09] Have healthy boundaries
and when you ask people if they are ok, have it be from a place
where you are direct and firm. People are more apt to share how
they really are when they feel the person on the other end really
cares.
[22:14] What
trust stands for
to Abigail:
- Truth
- Respect
- Unity
- Safety
- Transparency
[25:49] Three
steps to taking personal responsibility and accountability in our
lives:
- Be enlightened and aware of how our life experience
impacts our “normal”
- Empower ourselves and others.
- Don’t finger point or cast shame, blame, and judgement upon
others.
[29:46] Know the difference
between reacting and responding. This will help you know potential
triggers ahead of time and recognize if someone is crossing your
boundary lines.
[34:30] It’s important to look
at the intent behind someone’s behavior. Often times it’s not
malicious but they just need direction and
coaching.
[46:10] Focus on what you say
about yourself subconsciously, and what you let others say about
you, even if they are joking.
Quotable Quotes
- “There’s always 3 solutions to every problem,
even if it looks desperate at the time.”
- “Find
what you are good at, and hold on to that.”
- “You
don’t have to be alone.”
- “There’s no room for healing if we are all
pointing fingers.”
- “People grow up to be what you expect in
them.”
Simon Sinek
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